I am someone who believes that the perception of who you are definitely affects your overall vibe and how you decide to carry yourself. I’ve always chosen confidence and will continue to forever. I’ve been a confident individual since age 10 and I never intend on changing.

Confidence isn’t something you can fake. People can see right through a BS personality really well these days. And let’s face it, you can only act for so long until you eventually break… If you want to learn a few tips on how to gain self confidence within yourself keep reading!

If you’re someone who is constantly overthinking, constantly replaying failed scenarios in your head over and over again, feeding self doubt, and seeing the good in everyone but yourself, stop. You deserve so much more than that. If you answered yes to any of the above, it is time to learn to love yourself! Nobody is perfect no matter how perfect someone may seem on Instagram – trust me nobody is.

Believe it or not, I am actually really hard on myself about a lot of things (I think is partly because I’m a 1. LOL know your personality type…), but I am working on this! Sometimes I give myself pep talks throughout the day like, “Hello you are fricken amazing and beautiful, get out your head girl…” This helps me. Optimistic self talk throughout the day about anything and everything that happens to be bothersome and cause my confidence within myself to go down is so helpful. Also, writing what upsets me and how I get over it really helps also, so then next time if the same thing bothers me I can prepare my mind with ways to not let it affect me.

Recommendations for Improved Self Confidence

– Create a list of things you love about yourself

– Talk to yourself throughout the day

– Remove ALL toxicity from your life

– Balance work and life and accept your limitations

– Speak life and use positive words

– Give people compliments and learn to accept compliments

– Use direct eye contact when speaking to people

– Know your personal goals

– Celebrate your wins

– Show those pearly whites more

– Show people how to treat you

– Listen to yourself when you speak

– Know and understand how people see you

– Say NO when you have to

– Have accountability and responsibility

– Accept your flaws

– Spend time alone

– Self love

My top 3 Tips and Implementation!

#1

Be authentically you

Let go of trying to be someone you’re not. Being authentically you is how you’ll be able to feel your best and happiest. This life is one that is fulfilling and not resentful because you won’t be blaming other people for your thoughts and emotions. Your own wellbeing should matter way more than other peoples opinions anyways. People will always talk, give them something to talk about – your personal growth, happiness, and amazing confidence.

Focus on improving yourself rather than comparing yourself to other people. Most times we are sitting behind our phone screen scrolling on instagram looking at models wondering why we don’t look like them. Well guess what? God made you to look exactly the way you are which is so so so beautiful and I love you. Comparison kills and it is a waste of time. Instead of comparing yourself to other people, count your blessings and be thankful for the things you do have. We are blessed beyond measure and it’s time we start loving ourselves the way God intended us to. Spend some time alone and really think about what areas you need to improve in order to get your mind in a good place to be able to be your true self.

#2

Live your life the way you want to

Don’t worry about other people’s opinions. If you want to do something, just do it. Don’t wait for a certain month or day of the week. Just do it. If you want to wear something because you think it’s cute, but no one else likes it, screw everyone and wear it. You will be happy you did. Start doing things for yourself and put yourself first.

You will never life a fulfilling life trying to please everyone else and meet the world’s expectations of the way you should look, talk, think, and be. The only expectations you should be trying to meet are your own. It’s your life. Do things and make decisions that will make you feel awesome about yourself.

#3

Take responsibility for the way you live your life

Stop Blaming other people for the way you feel and as a validation of your own actions. Take responsibility for the way you live your life and the things you do.

I am so focused on my own ambitions and goals that I don’t even notice what other people have to say about me. I really don’t care about what people have to say about the things I’m doing or have yet to do. I do everything for myself and my own personal satisfaction. I have removed ALL forms of toxicity in my life and my mind has been eternally grateful. It takes strength to admit what parts of your life need changing in order to grow and grow in self confidence. This has boosted my self-esteem and confidence immensely. If you have any form of toxicity in your life: bad habits, negative nelly’s, work environment, whatever it may be – get rid of it! Stop complaining and take action today. Excuses and laziness are not anywhere to be found on a confident individuals radar.

Confidence is absolutely is a decision. You will never earn it. I believe it is something that comes when you decide to have it. This is also something that gets built up within yourself. You are your own worst enemy. Stop comparing yourself to others and just believe in yourself. Confidence is knowing you’ll be fine if people don’t like you or agree with you, once you have this feeling you know you have gained a whole new level of confidence if you weren’t here before.

I am that girl that just goes for everything. If I want something that requires confidence and bravery – you betcha I’ll get it. I will step out in confidence and seek after the very needs and desires of my heart, mind, and soul.

Building your own self confidence takes time. Be patient, keep moving forward, never look back, I believe in you. Confidence is a beautiful thing and I hope you find yours.

You got this!