Ever since I have had my second child, people have been in my DM’s asking me “How am I doing all of this?” Here are the things that are most important to me both daily and weekly that I arrange my schedules around. Life can be really hard sometimes. I have found it is best to take things day by day and week by week to get things done. If you feel like you don’t have it together, I highly suggest sitting down and writing out the things that are most important for you to feel sane or feel accomplished. Use this blog post and template to help you get your wheels turning to come up with a plan of things you want to accomplish daily and weekly in the busyness of life.☺️
5 things I do daily
- Spend ample amount of time with my babies giving them my undivided attention I love my babies so much and cannot get enough of them. They are so special and deserve mama’s full undivided attention to help them grow, develop, and feel appreciated and loved. I am sure they know how much mama loves their precious little selves. They are God’s gift to me even on the hard days, I love them. I love them.
- Wake up early and make the bed When I wake up early and get out of bed right away the day is just better. I also like to make the bed so it looks good and that starts the day off right. Something about doing this task is so fulfilling. I highly recommend waking up when your alarm goes off and making the bed each and every day. These days my alarm is Nevaeh’s little fingers tugging on my hair once her dad has gotten her out of her crib or Nixon’s sweet cry for me to change his diaper or give him his breakfast. LOL.
- Get ready for the day I’ve found getting ready for the day makes me feel way better about myself. What does getting ready look like for me? Every day is different as I don’t like to wear makeup everyday so I can rub my face all over my babies soft cheeks and kiss them all over the place. The only time I will wear makeup and is when I am having company over or going to be out and about for long periods of time. I feel better about myself when I am put together with some makeup. Do not get me wrong here, I will go outside of the house or have company over with a bare face and feel completely fine! Some days I will wear my wig(s) and some days I’ll do my natural hair. It really depends on what mood I’m in when I wake up. I like to moisturize my face every morning with my Kiehl’s moisturizer. Lastly, I like putting on an outfit that makes me feel good or “snatched” LOL. These days I am in comfy clothing and like a good yoga or sweat pant and crop top or some sort of loose fitting top that’s good for nursing.
- Take care of my personal hygiene It may sound silly, but it’s a lot of work to continue to take care of yourself while you’re taking care of babies who are demanding your attention nearly every second and minute of each and every day. Every day my energy tank gets fully used up from all the things especially with nursing and pumping. All of the little things turn out to be all of the big things when you look at the bigger picture. What do I mean? Brushing my teeth every day prevents cavities and other potential tooth problems. Showering or taking a bath each and every day prevents body acne and body odor. Washing and moisturizing my face everyday prevents breakouts and bad skin. If you are a person that needs to work out or move your body, that’s great too. You get the point! All of these things are necessities to me as I am taking care of myself and don’t want the repercussions of simply not taking care of my body and its basic needs. I highly recommend not neglecting your physical needs.
- Accomplish at least two tasks that need to get done around the house Some days I just don’t have the energy to check a million and one things off of my to do list for the day. Other days I knock out everything and then just chill maybe two days out of the seven day week. If I can accomplish three loads of laundry in one day from start to finish and unloading and reloading the dishwasher in one day that’s a win. It can be a multitude of things, but I’m usually accomplishing what seems like a billion and one things each and every day to stay on top of everything. A few examples: Dishes, Laundry, Dusting, Vacuuming, Steaming the floors, Mopping the floors, cleaning the toilets, bleaching the shower tiles, bleaching the bath tub, and etc all while taking care of my two precious bundles of joy. I pretty much do everything with Nevaeh and teach her how to do things as I am doing them. She is learning so much by doing this. I don’t have any guilt taking care of both the babies and my house as I shouldn’t. This is life and things have to get done.
4 things I do weekly
- Do one creative activity that is stimulating to my brain I enjoy Calligraphy, coloring, reading, and writing. I try to do at least one of these activities weekly to help keep my brain stimulated from a creative standpoint. I typically do these activities at night once the kids are sleeping, so I am not taking away any of our time together during the day.
- Get out of the house Even if it just a quick 10 minute drive to Target, do it. I would say I am a homebody and I know it is not good to stay cooped up in the house for several reasons. Leaving means I’ll get some fresh air, listen to a few of my favorite songs in the car (I hate the radio) and sing, and see my cute angels in the rearview mirror. I am that mom that brings the babies everywhere and it’s a rarity if I am out and about alone. When I am out and about alone somewhere, I feel like I need to rush home to relieve dad and also because I just miss them so much. I am sure that feeling will soon dissipate and I’ll be taking my sweet old time and vying to get out of the house alone, but for now it’s a rarity.
- See people and have adult conversation I try to spend time with both friends and family weekly/monthly. Spending time with people besides my husband and children is great because it allows me to have conversations with other adults who care about me and my wellbeing and enjoy spending time with me. This is something I have to force myself to do without the babies. Time is so valuable and I do not like wasting my time with unnecessary things or people who do not deserve my time and energy.
- Spend time with Josh I try to spend some time with just Josh every week – this does not mean we go on dates every week. It is just good to set aside time together without the kids. This is usually at night whenever we both don’t have plans. We shoot for one to two times a week.
Start with a simple day to day schedule with at least two to three things on it that are important to you. I get energized by checking things off a list and getting things done which is a huge reason why I can get so much done. This is the way I am as a person – very motivated to get stuff done. If you set up a clear plan every day, watch how you will be checking everything off your to do list all while spending time with your babies and taking time for you too in no time. I swear by my weekly schedule and feel so much more organized and accomplished because I don’t overwhelm myself with everything that needs to be done or forget things as I do it all! I hope you found this helpful and get some of your sanity back if you’ve lost it. 🤍
