These first few months have been nothing short of amazing. I especially love learning new things about my husband. I know we will never stop getting to know each other, and that is so exhilarating to me. Everyone knows the “Getting to Know You” stage is the best stage, so why not have those emotions that come along with that stage for like ever, am I right??

Josh travels a lot for work, but when he’s home I always look forward to coming home. When I walk through the door I announce my presence with the biggest and cheesiest grin on my face, “Honey I’m home! I’ve arrived.” It’s stupid. My cheeks hurt for a solid twenty minutes after because I can’t get that stupid grin off my face. I guess you could say I’m in love. I do that every day and I hope he never grows tired of that.

He always has dinner ready for me or is in the process of whipping something up for the two of us. It’s always so lush. I am beyond grateful that he thoroughly enjoys cooking because Lord knows I suck at that. We always eat together at the kitchen table. We sit on the same side instead of directly across from each other. I feel more of a sense of togetherness when we sit right next to each other vs. sitting across from one another. I always tell him how much I appreciate him cooking dinner. Appreciation is everything.

How Marriage Has Changed Me

Organization Yup I was that girl who had everything all over the place in her bedroom. You could rarely see the floor. It was bad. I was like that for years. I remember constantly shoving clothes under the bed when my mom would ask me to clean my room so I could hang out with my friends. Now, I work very hard at keeping our house spotless. I have always enjoyed cleaning, apparently just not my bedroom. I do make our bed. I absolutely love the crispness of a clean home. I’m definitely a changed woman in the aspect of my organizational skills.

Mindset I have noticed a huge improvement in my attitude and overall thinking. We are all human, which means we all make mistakes and have characteristics that make us authentic and who we are as individuals. I always have to remind myself that there is no such thing as perfection. As much as I strive to be the perfect wife for my husband I know I slip up from time to time. The biggest thing I have been working on is the way I respond to him. Instead of getting defensive when he asks me about something I try to respond in a more loving way that will be better received by him vs. responding in a way that is rude or snippy because that doesn’t help anyone. This has done wonders for our relationship.

Thinking for Two It’s no longer just me, I have to think about a lot of things and how my husband will react to the decisions I make. This does not mean I can’t make decisions for myself without running it by him first, but just a different level of mindfulness. Understanding this has been life changing. Makes me want to be a wiser version of myself because I like to make him proud with the decisions I make and the things I do, and it all starts in the brain.

Feeling Free Believe it or not, I definitely feel like I have so much more freedom. Being a wife has made me feel free. There’s just something about saying the words, “I Do” or “I Will.” We said, “I Will.” We both chose each other with our own free will. We let the other person be who they truly are.

Things that Have Not Changed

Life Goals I have a lot of goals that I will still strive to accomplish even as a wife before I leave this fascinating yet so crazy world. I know he will be there right by my side cheering me on in everything I do. If you don’t have life goals what are you living for? Ever think about that?

Alone Time and Independence I have always valued my alone time and independence. I am very self aware. Just because I got married does not mean I’m going to drop everything I’m passionate about in my life, lack self care, and become languid with the things that make me me. I’m better than that. I value my independence because it’s something learned, and learned well. I am fine going to restaurants, church, coffee shops, the mall, and whatever else you can think of alone. Sometimes I prefer it that way. I’d rather go alone then entertain mindless conversation(s) with someone else. This is something I will never let go of because it’s a huge part of me. I know I am enough. I am cool with watching the world go by, alone.

Openness We’ve always been very open about everything throughout our whole relationship, and I mean everything. We can say and do anything in front of the other person and not feel weird or embarrassed at all. I actually feel so bad for people who can’t fart or poop in front of their significant other. What a painful life. Yeah, I said it. We just don’t mind.

Sense of Security I have a lot to say about this! Relationship security most definitely does not come from marrying someone. You have to really know someone and understand them, and I mean really understand them. Security in a relationship is not something that can be forced. We are both predictable and not in a boring way. We’re just consistent. Consistent with our character and daily choices in life even when times get tough.

I did not feel I had to show my husband off constantly on my social media accounts before we were engaged and married, and I still don’t feel that way. I understand that every relationship is different, but I am not one of those girls who constantly feels the need to post about their significant other. I never will. Is that supposed to make you feel secure? I always thought people who do that are annoying, and have no independence apart from their significant other. I think people that do this are hiding some sort of insecurity about themselves that they’ve buried deep within. Their only outlet is posting endless photos of their significant other… What a life. I don’t know man it just seems weird to me. I was just married and recently went on my honeymoon so I have been one of those annoying girls for a minute, my B. I’ll stop because ew. Rant over.

Issues Every relationship has its quirks both good and bad. I don’t feel the need to tell my family, friends, or coworkers about what’s going on in our relationship. Not everyone needs to know our business. We see each other’s perspective on things and we don’t have to always be right. We prefer to communicate and work it out with one another vs. the world. We are pretty private when it comes to us. We like it that way.

Romance Josh knows the key to my heart is a quick trip to McDonald’s.

“Are you guys ready to order?”

“She’ll take a Quarterpounder with Fries and yes make that a large. She’ll also have 4 piece chicken nuggets with BBQ sauce.”

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

I will always love McDonald’s. Always.

On a real note, we are pretty chill. Our idea of a date is literally a run to McDonald’s or Taco Bell, and then going home and laughing with each other about how full we are whilst looking in the mirror at our food babies. What more could you ever want? We’re lovin’ it. See what I did there…

Josh knows I don’t like the mushy gushy lovey dovey stuff. I never have and probably never will. I’d much rather have a box of cheez-its or a bag of lays potato chips with a bow on it than flowers, honestly. He knew what he married, but he is a very enchanting chivalrous man.

He has been everything I thought a husband could and would be. He has exceeded all my expectations. I love being a wife to the man of mine. I’ve always wanted to be a wife to the best guy, and lucky for me I’m stuck with the best one for life.

You should get yourself a “Joshua.” Trust me you’ll be more than satisfied.